We talked about getting back together when Eden (that's our oldest) was 8 or 9 months old, but he decided to marry someone else. We talked off and on while he was in the military I even sent him a letter while he was on ship pretty much begging him to take me back in any way he wanted, so yeah that got an interesting response. Then I pretty much figured we were over with. We did see each other while he had visitation with Eden, but the visits were unpredictable and he was barely allowed out of his now ex wifes sight.
During the next few years I heard that he was locked up off and on, and I dated around, but never got really serious. I got messed up in some pretty bad things thank god I didn't die.
Then in Jan of 07, I got a message on my space from him, it took me about 1.5 days to respond, part of me wanted to ignore it, but my more curious side, got the better of me and I sent him one back that pretty much me and Eden were fine, I had wondered about him, but not thought to much about him, i stopped having feelings for him long ago but I think we should try again to be friends for E's sake. The next day we chatted on line for almost 10 hours, and I realized half way through the day I was still in love with him. That march he got kicked out of the place he was staying and he was planning on coming in for a visit during the summer but called me at work, to ask if he could stay with me. Logic says that this would never work it had been at least 6 years since we spoke face to face at least 7 years since we said anything nice to each others face lol, but another part of me, didn't want to let this chance pass me by. Plus i figured if it didn't work out it was my place after all, I could at least let him get on his feet then he could move out.
On March 8, 2007 he moved in and didn't leave *till his arrest* I knew the moment I opened the door that this was meant to be. We got along great and our difference balanced each other out wonderfully. Like every couple we had some problems with jealousy and being overworked, but we got through them. We got married in a secret wedding on July 23, 07, I can still remember every detail and it was the happiest day of my life, it was the moment I knew one day would happen. It was a very small ceremony just me and him at the court house , but it was my destiny.
Two short weeks later, we found out we were pregnant with Lily on august 8.
Things were great till 2-23-08, when he was taken from me. But that is our past and we have a whole lot of future to look forward to.
Jody is my soulmate, and without him my life, doesn't feel complete, as corny as it sounds, while we were apart I tried to feel that void with tons of things and guys and nothing made me happier or more content than to just wake up next to my husband or sit on the couch reading while he played video games.
I just have to keep reminding my self on a daily basis that this is just temporary.